10 facts about courtship and why it is important

Courtship is the period between when intending couples are
preparing for marriage and when they eventually get married. This
time is the real time of preparation if you desire a solid foundation,
and so must not be played with.
TIME TO PRAY:
There is no better time to pray and learn what prayer styles or
ways will work in your marriage than the time of courtship. Pray
about everything – your spiritual life, wedding ceremony, vision,
pregnancy, childbirth, child rearing, school your children will
attend, job, etc.
TIME TO UNLEARN:
This is the time where adjustment starts. Drop all those wrong
ideas and characters that will not take your relationship anywhere,
but will rather do more harm than good.
TIME TO LEARN:
It is a period of increasing in knowledge. Do not pretend, learn
everything you need for yourself, your partner and on how to build
a solid home. The day you stop learning, you start dying. When
you learn, you grow. So, give yourself to learning.
TIME TO RELEARN:
You must know that you and your to-be are from different
background with different perspective to life, in lieu of this, you
must be ready to relearn. This will help you have a better
understanding and good world view about each other and
situations. If this is not done, misunderstanding is inevitable.
TIME FOR VISION ALIGNMENT AND GOAL HARMONIZATION:
Courtship period is a period of checking to know if you can really
walk and work together in order to fulfill purpose. So, you must
know individual’s goal and vision to see where the line will meet.
You must know whether the line is a parallel one that will never
meet or it has a point of intersection. This is very important to
know if you can move on or pause, rethink and seek counsel.
TIME TO PROVE:
When vision and goals can’t be harmonized, then, you must prove
what you are doing. Is God really in it? Is it true love or just mere
feelings? Can this pass through the test of time, distance, etc? You
need God to help you prove this without hurting yourselves and
missing out of His plans for you.
TIME TO WAIT:
True love waits. It is LUST that wants it now. It is for the
married, so in courtship; it’s a forbidden fruit for you to eat or
indulge in it or other act of it some
singles engage in thinking at least they are not having it and
can’t get pregnant. Consider what God is saying and don’t destroy
your glorious destiny on a platter of some minutes unwholesome
pleasure.
TIME TO KNOW:
YES! It is a time to know yourselves but not having each other’s
carnal knowledge. Get to meet your families during this time, meet
with your Pastors and make sure you meet with your Mentors. All
these people will have something to tell you that will help in
building you up solidly. Remember in the multitude of Counselors,
there is safety.
TIME TO PREPARE AND EARN:
It is a time of all round preparation because if you don’t prepare
well during courtship for a glorious marriage, you will have many
things to repair in marriage. Remember, marriage is a journey that
succeeds on the fuel of preparation. A marriage you fail to
adequately prepare for, you may not enjoy.
It is also a time to earn – MAKE MONEY, MATURE MONEY,
MANAGE MONEY AND MAXIMIZE MONEY. Also make sure you
save money.
TIME TO FIGHT:
Strange you may say but it is the truth. Don’t pretend in courtship.
It is a time to fight in love and fight fair. Disagree to agree. Don’t
be a YES partner, reality is everything can never be YES. When
neither of you is a ROBOT. Even a good friendship has its own fair
share of misunderstanding, let alone a Courtship leading to
marriage. Here you can learn how you want to be fighting in your
marriage. Is it in love or fight to scatter? It helps to learn the act of
forgiveness in marriage.
The aforementioned are the major times you go through during
courtship and if well harnessed, excellent and blissful, marriage is
not far from you.

3 Comments

  1. Good update

  2. I love this post

  3. Courtship is good but then it shouldn’t take too long

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