The guy an independent woman must find in order to give up being independent must be independent on his own rights. He has to literally be worth it. Worth giving up those few hours at night that you would normally be working a ridiculous amount of overtime, worth the stopping of hanging out with friends, worth the time and the effort, or even being in your life.
2) Independent women are looking for knowledgeable men.
The man must be on the same type of educational wave length. As an independent woman, you do not have time to waste on a dumbass. The man must be interesting and knowledgeable.
3) It’s difficult to find single, dedicated men.
The man must be single. You laugh, but seriously, you have to be single. I am not playing this little dating around game with you, where you have so many “options” under your belt. If I am wasting my time talking to you, you must dedicate your precious time to me, too.
4) Some men can be ‘needy’.
Do not message me all the time and expect an immediate response. I am not used to guys texting me anyways, let alone you. I am busy working and doing my own thing. I will get back with you, but it will be after I am available to do so.
5) You must accept the independent woman as she is.
Love me for me, NOT for who I could be, NOT for what you can make me. I am over that. I am no longer playing those little dating games that we were all taught when we were 18.
I am NOT going to text you and wait two days for a response and think it is so cute. I am not going to become a stay-at-home mom. I won’t be a pushover. I won’t pretend to be dumb and cute for you.
I am smart, educated, successful, a workaholic, dedicated, and going places. If you want to get on my train with me – perfect. If you want to get on some other train and you think I might fit, then get on another train and leave me alone.
6) An independent woman is not looking to change a man.
I won’t put any effort into changing you. If you need some help making doctor’s appointments, planning parties, picking out your clothes, etc. I am not going to be that “girl” for you. You have to be an adult. I am not looking to be your mom in anyway. You must come as you are fully and truthfully.
7) Independent women want honest men.
Tell the truth. By this time I am over liars. I just don’t have time for lies. You ever lie to me, please be gone. I want the truth – even if it is brutal.
8) It’s tough finding men who can be present.
You must be present. You cannot say ‘hey, let’s date exclusively’ then never have time for me. I am 100 percent over that. You must actually be there.
9) An independent woman wants a real partner.
Be a partner. Independent women do NOT want a husband in the sense where the man is basically her dad. We want a legitimate partner. I like to explain it like this: I want a best friend who happens to like to have sex with me. That is it. You work full time – I work full time. When we do have kids, we split all the responsibilities. There is no ‘I am the mom so I get to do everything’ – um no. The bills – same thing, you pay and I pay. So on and so forth.
10) Some men expect love too quickly.
Do NOT expect me to fall in love with you quickly. An independent woman has already been through a ton of heartbreak. We just do not even care to be in a relationship. So if you have duped us to this point into liking you, wait. It won’t be forever, but wait for it. We are scared at this time and we will say it, just not anytime soon. I know with my husband, we said I love you after about 8-9 months of exclusively dating.