Never underestimate a cheater’s ability to weasel their way out of a compromising situation. Whenever you get cheated on, you can expect a lot of excuses and alibis to be thrown your way. Your partner will refuse to take responsibility for infidelity, and you will be left with a choice to make regarding your relationship.
Regardless of how you want to move on from a situation of infidelity, you always have to be aware if your partner is lying to you. Dishonesty is just adding fuel to the fire of infidelity, and you must address these issues head on. Be wary of the most common lies that cheaters will tell after their cases of infidelity.
1. I’ll never do it again!
Of course he will. Once a cheater, always a cheater. But it’s really up to you whether you’ll be willing to tolerate his constant infidelity. If he was willing to cheat on you once, what makes you think he won’t be willing to do it again? Even if he believes that he won’t be willing to cheat on you again, he would be lying to himself too.
2. You’re acting crazy!
No you’re not. You’re acting just perfectly normal. It’s okay to freak out on your cheating boyfriend. He deserves whatever wrath you’re ready to unleash on him. He knows you’re not acting crazy and he’s merely trying to diffuse the situation by deflecting his faults unto you.
3. I promise I’ll change.
Actually, he won’t. If he’s old and mature enough to commit himself to you in a relationship, then he should also be old enough to know that change doesn’t exactly come so easily. That’s part of his personality and there’s just no changing it. You have to choose if you’re willing to live with it.
4. It was only a moment of weakness on my part.
It wasn’t just a moment of weakness. We all get our moments of weakness. We get weak whenever we’re tempted to eat that extra slice of pizza. We get tempted to splurge all our savings on toys and clothes. We also get weak whenever we’re sexually attracted to someone, but it’s not an excuse for acting on our temptations. That’s another story entirely.
5. But you’ve been really distant lately!
Typical cheater mentality. He tries to absolve himself of the incident by passing the blame on you. It’s your fault that he cheated. Apparently, it was your own fault that he chose to engage in sexual relations with other women. Certainly, he never would have cheated on you if it were just up to him. You had a role to play in the incident also.
6. She’s only a friend!
She’s not. Friends don’t engage in romantic and sexual relationships with people who just happen to already be engaged in a relationship with other people. She’s not just a friend. She’s a side-chick and if he’s not ashamed of cheating on you, then he shouldn’t be ashamed of admitting it.
7. She’s the one you should blame!
Blame anyone except him. Apparently, she raped him from the way he’s trying to reason his way out. He’s talking as if the sex wasn’t consensual. No, it’s not entirely her fault. He is also just as much to blame as she is and you shouldn’t let him off the hook so easily.
8. It was only sex. It’s you I’m in love with.
Sex is never only sex. Never allow him to downplay the severity of his actions. It wasn’t just sex. It was a betrayal of trust. Yes, he may still be in love with you but the fact of the matter is that he still cheated on you despite the love.
9. It didn’t mean anything!
It meant something. It definitely meant something. It meant that he’s immature and unwilling to commit to you and only you. It meant that he’s not ready to get tied down with you. It meant that he’s a cheater who lies to get whatever he wants.
10. You’re never game to try anything new in bed.
Don’t fall for it. It’s never your fault. Just because you’re not adventurous in bed doesn’t mean he gets a free pass at sleeping with other women. It’s not like he gave you a free pass to sleep with other men, right?
11. I was drunk.
Alcohol may be used as a reason, but it’s never a justifiable excuse. He should have had better self-control and he should have reminded himself that he’s in a relationship with you. Don’t let him off the hook just because he was drunk. We all do stupid things when we’re drunk and we have to live with the consequences.
12. You’re the girl I want to marry.
Actually, he might not be lying in this case. But that doesn’t erase the fact that he cheated on you. If in case he’s lying and he’s just trying to trick you into forgiving him, then shame on you for letting that happen. Don’t ever allow yourself to act the fool. Have some sense of self-worth and stand up for yourself.