S3x, Prayer, and the Sincere Christian
If prayer is real at all, it should help us in our constant struggle to come to terms with our s3xuality and s3xual drives, among the strongest urges (not new information!) we possess.
Let’s start with God’s intentions. Why did He “invent” s3x anyway? He did think it up you know. In fact, Genesis 1:27 asserts, “And God created man in His own image … male and female He created them.” See, s3x in not an afterthought, a way to make more babies. Rather, it is an indispensable quality woven in the fabric of each life on this planet. S3x is not first something we do; it is primarily who we are.
Therefore (and more on that later), if transgressions occur in the s3xual realm, they violate us personally, a far more serious problem than simply breaking a few Victorian taboos, the view of s3xual sin most people hold.
God’s intent also shows itself in Genesis 2:24: “For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Here we see that the union of man and woman s3xually was blessed only in marriage, as opposed to today’s popular assumption that any s3xual relationship between consenting adults is also good, or-at worst, neutral.
At the risk of seeming too anachronistic in our divorce-wracked world, let me give a description of the Biblical intent for marriage. Marriage is the life-long, loving, committed union of one man and one woman lawfully proclaimed and entered into before society, which is the foundation of a whole new family unit. A marriage ceremony says to society,
“Hands off this man. Hands off this woman. They are no longer available. They are spoken for. Henceforth, they are committed to each other.” In other words, marriage builds a God-given moral fence around the two people.
Thus, s3xual relationship outside of this “fence” is unprotected, and subject to griefs and great complications beyond the moral range of the blessedness intended by God, for husband and wife.
God’s purpose in s3xual union between spouses is at least three-fold: pleasure, propagation, and prevention. Society touts s3x as pleasurable, and Christians as prudish; but again, God always intended s3x for pleasure. Consider Genesis 18:9-12 in which Sarah, being old, asked herself if she would in old age have further “pleasure” in s3x. Or what about Genesis 26:7,8, in which the King James Version describes Isaac as “sporting” (don’t you just love it) with Rebekah? Then there is Deuteronomy 24:5, where a young married man is told to “cheer” his wife for a year (KJV). There is also the entire book of Song of Solomon as well, the holiest “marriage manual” ever written.
Propagation as a purpose for s3xual union is not only obvious, but also it is Biblical: “Now the man had relations with his wife Eve, and she conceived and gave birth…” (Genesis 4:1). Prior to the Fall, God had blessed the union of Adam and Eve and told them to “be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:28). There was then, and still now, only ONE way to fulfill that command……. .