A joke is basically anything that makes you laugh and it is usually not meant to be real, sometimes its made up, other times it’s real but the major fact is that they are not serious about it. In relationships, it is good to have fun and joke as much as possible. It’s good to have a good laugh often. Being with someone means that you get close to them and you let all your guard down and that makes you familiar with them. Most people take that for granted and they tend to cross lines in the name of jokes and fun. The biggest truth about jokes is that anything you constantly joke about becomes a part of you, you think about it, and with some time you may be welcome to the idea of doing it yourself.
General things you should never joke about
Any form of abuse is deadly, it could lead to bad things even up to death. It’s not a joke to talk about raping your daughter or your wife or anyone for that matter, it’s not a joke to take about sexual abuse, your partners should never find that amusing no matter the situation. Make this clear and be ready to react to it if ever they cross that line.
2. Committing a crime
The more they talk about being a criminal the more likely they are to become one. Jokes make things feel normal and okay. When you say“you are ****”that’s an insult but then when you add lol it becomes a joke.“You are ****, lol”. Jokes make things okay and so if they constantly joke about doing the wrong things you know there’s a problem. Tell them to stop, you don’t want them being okay with a crime.
“I don’t know how it happened, it all started as a joke, we were just talking and joking about it and the next thing I know we were kissing and the rest is just like a blur”. The point here is that it was all a joke, that’s how it starts. First, they are joking about cheating and then the next thing they are cheating and don’t know how it happened. Stop it before it gets there, do well to draw a clear and bold line, no jokes about cheating.
4. Partners insecurities
Most people have things that they are insecure about. A lot of times these things may not even be a big deal to you. For example your boyfriend is tall, usually people strive to be tall but then if your partner is not happy with his height and feels like it is too much for him, even though you love his height, even though you feel it is his “selling point” and most beautiful trait as long as he is unsure about it, you should never joke with it. When your partner tells you they are insecure about something, no matter how silly it sounds to you, you should respect them and take it seriously.
There are so many things that you should never joke about, and your partner needs to know what you don’t like because for everyone its not always the same, so take out time and set the boundaries. Let them know what is allowed and what’s too much.
Start here, tell us one thing your partner should never joke about.