How to avoid cheating on your spouse

Every married person on earth without exception is regularly
exposed to temptations, women are more exposed to this because
it is natural for men to approach a woman they like irrespective of
her marital status, in fact for some low lives, a married woman is
their preference when scouting for new conquests. While most of
them will side step these land mines and go on to have healthy and
happy relationships, some will fall by the wayside, consumed by
the wrong choices they have made, relationships and marriages
will be destroyed as a result of succumbing to these temptations.
Our ability to resist temptations is dependent upon a couple of
things, character, state of mind, the relationship with your spouse
and societal value system. In Nigeria for instance and indeed in
most countries, it is more likely for a man to cheat because the
society inadvertently encourages this by making male infidelity
seem more like an entitlement rather than a dangerous vice.
This trend has made most of us take our wives for granted, many
believe that their wives are either too old, too out of shape or too
scared to attempt any act of infidelity, this is a very grievous
mistake because every woman no matter how she looks is
someone’s preference, someone somewhere may be making
advances she is desperately trying to resist. Others believe that
because of societal limitations, their wives can never find the
courage to step outside the marriage. While this may all be very
close to the truth, it is known that our women today are becoming
bolder, just like men, they are also attracted to other men. These
women are giving the men a stiff competition in the area of
infidelity. Incidents of women blatantly cheating which was
previously almost unheard of is gradually becoming the order of
the day.
An average woman is approached for a relationship at least once
every couple of days, either at work, super market, social media,
parties and sadly even in churches these days, her ability to
withstand these temptations is largely dependent on her spouse.
While personal character flaws may play a role in a woman’s
decision to cheat, a good relationship with her spouse will
strengthen her resolve and ability to resist even the most appealing
temptation. When a woman is happy, it is extremely difficult to
break her defences, she lives in a bubble always, floating in that
proverbial cloud nine, too high for men to reach. Most women who
cheat do so at their weakest moments which in most cases is
usually during turbulent relationships with their spouse or serious
lack of material things. Cheating usually starts from complaining
about your relationship to a male friend who may take advantage
of her weakness to initiate a relationship.
One may ask why I am concentrating so much on women, it is
because women are more likely to approached by male hunters,
men are on the prowl looking for a weak women to take advantage
of. Secondly, in the event of infidelity, women are a lot stronger
than we are when it comes to dealing with a cheating spouse, as a
result of these, I am attempting to suggest ways to ensure we
don’t become victims. Most men cannot handle the idea of their
wives stepping out of their marriage, the thought of it is enough to
push them over the edge of a melancholic breakdown. Once faced
with a cheating spouse, a man’s self esteem is destroyed, his ego
battered and his world turned upside down. It may be very difficult
if not impossible for a man to completely recover from the
emotional battering unleashed on him by a cheating wife.
It is therefore important to mention at this juncture that we can
defend our emotions by helping to fortify a woman’s defences,
making it impregnable by the way your relationship with her is
structured. Always make sure that you resolve every issue before
she leaves home everyday especially if she is travelling for a few
days. Never let her out of your sight when she is angry or
disappointed with you. Do not let issues linger, she will definitely
talk to someone if you do. A woman must talk to someone
especially when she is unhappy, make sure you are that someone.
Do not as a matter of utmost importance rub your relationship with
another woman in her face no matter how innocent that
relationship may be. When this happens, ensure that you do
everything possible to placate her. If you are found in an
uncompromising situation with another woman, apologise, beg, cry
and keep begging. Retaliation is one of the reasons women cheat,
so don’t let her out of your sight until you are sure she has
processed and accepted your faults, forgiving and forgetting
doesn’t come cheap with a woman, so think twice before you
commit. She may stop frowning or complaining after a few days,
but it takes longer than you think for her to process and store it in
her closet of your offences. Keep an eye on that closet to ensure it
doesn’t get full, it is not a pleasant experience when the closet of
your offences gets full. Random acts of kindness, affection and
romance will ensure that the closet is purged regularly.

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4 Comments

  1. I won’t ever cheat on my baby

  2. My baby my one and only

  3. ok good

  4. Ok

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