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HOW TO KNOW AND FIX YOUR WIFE IF SHE IS FALLING APART

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HOW TO KNOW AND FIX YOUR WIFE IF SHE IS FALLING APART
Your wife can be dying in silence while still performing her wifely
duties. You will need to know her to know when she needs to be
fixed. When a woman is always moody, cries a lot, yells at
children, can easily sleep or sleeps a lot, she may be battling with
something you are not careful enough to see.
A real man will not allow his wife to fall apart without fixing her
and making her better and happy. If you discover your wife is
falling apart, watch out and fix the following:
1. CHECK IF YOU ARE THE PROBLEM
You might be her problem, but out of her respect and love for you,
she may not tell you. Ask, let her talk sincerely.
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2. BE AWARE OF HER RESPONSIBILITIES
Get to know how her work load is killing her. Regardless of
whether she stays at home or goes to work, do you know what she
does all day? If you don’t, ask her. Her to-do list is probably
overflowing with tasks that far outweighs her time and energy.
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3. BE APPRECIATIVE
Be mindful of her needs and appreciative of her sacrifices. The
work a woman does at home can be too common that nobody will
appreciate her for them, this can be killing her. Appreciate your
wife.
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4. GET INVOLVED BEFORE SHE BURNS OUT
Don’t just be appreciative, but get involved. The best time to begin
helping your wife is now. Don’t wait until she breaks down to offer
a helping hand.
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5. GET MACHINE
Get all the machines needed for her work at home (the ones you
can afford). Dish washer, gas cooker, refrigerator, oven, laundry
machine, etc.
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6. BE AN ACTIVE PARTICIPANT
Be totally involved at home, stop delegating parenting and family
life. Don’t be a “visiting Professor”, be an active partner in this
business of your life. It takes two to parent. It takes two to make a
marriage work. It takes two to run a household. Be fully involved
in every aspect of your family life.
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7. HOLD HER
Hold her like a lover and a friend. Place your hands on her
shoulder, her laps, hold her hands, just hold her and let her feel
you.
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8. JUST LISTEN
Men are known to be good talkers but very bad listeners. At times
what your wife needs is for you to just listen. Do not interrupt, let
her unburden, let her talk. Sometimes the best way for a woman to
reset is by getting all of her thoughts out. Let your wife talk
through her feelings and problems. Show empathy. Listen
carefully. Ask questions. Be fully engaged in the conversation.
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9. BE A PARTNER NOT A TEACHER
Most men do fall into the “Teaching trap” when they are supposed
to be a partner, showing love and consideration. Do not blame, just
be there for her. Just listen. That’s all you need to do. And if she
wants you to offer solutions, she’ll ask for them.
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10. GIVE HER HOPE
No matter what happens, don’t ever raise your hands in surrender.
Giving up, crying or weeping will hurt your wife more. Encourage
her. Let her know what you love about her. Help her see the good
in any situation. Avoid being overly critical or negative. When she
hits rock bottom, be the man who lifts her up, and brings light and
hope back into her life.
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11. BE SENSITIVE
Get to know her mood, get to know her needs, get to know what is
needed to be done at home and do them without prompting.
Learn the art of looking around the house and finding things that
need to get done. Are there dishes in the sink? What is broken that
needs to be fixed? Don’t wait to be asked. Just do it!
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12. PRAY FOR HER
Take your time off to pray for her, hand her over to her maker who
knows the deepest need of her heart. Let God fix her, you can’t do
it all alone. Let God know what you appreciate about her. Ask for
his help. Ask him to tell you how you can be a better spouse to her.
Ask him to comfort her and help her see herself as He sees her.
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13. PRAY WITH HER
Don’t just pray for your wife, find time to pray with her, hug her as
you pray together, hold her hands, just talk to your maker together.
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14. ASK HER HOW YOU CAN BE OF HELP
Your wife knows what you can do to help her reset, so just ask
her. She will open up to you, it may not be what you think, so don’t
speculate. Ask, she’ll appreciate it more than you will ever know.
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15. HELP AROUND THE HOUSE
Give a helping hand around the house. Give her a kitchen holiday
for some days, do all the cooking or hire somebody to do it for
you. Let her just sit, eat and rest, this may be all she needs.
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17. TAKE HER OUT
Take her out, eat out, go to the cinema, go to wherever she will
love to go, not just where you want, just follow her.
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18. ALLOW HER TO CRY, IF SHE MUST
“Stop crying, are you a baby?, will you be crying about this little
thing?” Just no. If she feels like crying, hold her to yourself and let
her do the crying while you pat her on the back. It’s a great way to
fix the problem.
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19. LET HER GO ON HOLIDAY
Taking a break from her daily routine and spend some time away
might do trick. This might be all you need to ever do in order to fix
your wife, when she’s really really down.

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Salahuddeen Abubakar
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Salahuddeen Abubakar

Good update

Van
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Nice upload

Theresa Joseph
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Yakubu Harrison
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Good update.