How to promote love and submission

The most difficult aspects of a God ordained marriage is balancing
love and submission. The challenges in marriages these days are
due to partial submission by women and conditional love by the
men. Why do we have these challenges in our days? The answers
are not far fetched; we have more Christians who did not die at
calvary but only fainted. Men and women who speak in tongues
but are not broken. Men and women who prophesy but are not
regenerated. Men who do not love God and women who do not
submit to God.

Any woman who is not in total submission to her husband in
everything is a marital liability. Any man who does not love his
wife unconditionally is a spiritual miscarriage. Women who can
submit to God and their pastor but cannot submit to her husband
are hypocrites. Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto
your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

Colossians 3:18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own
husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.

Men who love other persons above their wives are marital
idolaters. Colossians 3:19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not
bitter against them.

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also
loved the church, and gave himself for it;

It’s unfortunate that the divine arrangement of marriage is not so
favourable to the woman but that is not intended to make the
woman a lesser personality.

Any man who desires submission must give out unreserved love to
his wife. Likewise, any woman who wants to be loved must be
willing to submit in totality. Submission is not slavery neither is it
servanthood. It entails that the man should take the lead in the
affairs of the home. The man is not a boss, a bully, a ruler, a
dictator, a tyrant, a terror or a commando. A man who loves his
wife like Jesus does to the church will never subject his wife to
slavery and degradation.

He wants a woman who will willingly follow the man, while he
takes the lead regardless of his age, financial status, stature and

A woman who will obey her husband like she obeys God.
A woman who will support her husband to succeed and actualize
his God given dream;
Not a woman who will pursue her personal vision at the detriment
of the common goal of the family.

God wants a woman who will bury her own personal goals in her
husband’s vision.
A woman who will treat her husband like God and King (Serah
called and treated Abraham as Lord)
Any woman who argues and insists on her idea and opinion is not
submissive. Any woman whose husband cannot successfully
correct or rebuke is not submissive. There are times the woman
may be richer, wiser, older, more educated etc, that does not make
her assume the place of leadership. A completely submissive
woman therefore is the one who willingly submits her body,
money, interest, intellect, beauty, properties, positions, fame,
achievements etc at the feet of her husband.
A man who cares for his wife.
A man who understands with his wife.
A man who builds and encourages his wife to succeed.
A man who makes a Queen out of his wife.
A man who provides for his wife.
A man who is kind to his wife.
A man who can forgive and overlook his wife’s excesses.
A man who is willing to give his life for his wife.
A man who will protect his wife physically, spiritually, mentally and

Any man who truly loves his wife will surely earn her absolute
submission. Real and loving men don’t make their wives submit by
coercion. Any woman who totally submits to her husband will
ultimately earn her husband’s love. Virtuous women don’t
manipulate or insist on their husband’s love, they earn it by their
good character imbedded in submission.
If you want submission, love.
If you want love, submit.

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  1. Good update

  2. Nice post

  3. Ok

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