Marriage and relationships not beautiful as you expect – Nairalovers

Marriage is humility of every kind, not hostility of any kind. If you
grew up from a home where your mother always disrespects your
father, you will enter into relationship and marriage, thinking it is
normal. If the only thing you have observed whenever mommy and
daddy is talking is that your mom’s voice is always louder than
your dad’s voice, it becomes a lifestyle for you in all your
relationships. If she is the type that cannot be calm even by the
pastor and the elders of the church, it will be what you will
become. If your daddy always beat your mom, this also influences
you, making you see every man as the same. 1 Peter 3:5-6 talks
about Sarah’s personality, “For after this manner in the old time
the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves,
being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed
Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters you are”. That’s why
the most important subject to discuss in marriage seminars or
counselling in preparation for new marriages is the rehabilitation of
your spirit from your past and wrong information that has infected
your mind and soul. Look at these, “Put on therefore, as the elect
of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness,
humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; Forbearing one
another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel
against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do you. And
above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of
perfectness”. Colossians 3:12-14. In essence, marriage is humility,
not hostility. So people find it difficult to differentiate between
humility and hostility. You will see an extreme wide person
claiming he or she is humble in the exhibition of hostility. You will
even see the person applauding himself (herself) in his (her)
ignorance of humility, expecting you to thank him (her). Listen,
humility is a charm to someone’s character and personality.
Hostility is a wreckage to someone’s character and personality.
The difference is always there. It is just like white and black
colors. It is only a mental case patient that will see black color and
call it white color. Humility is a white color charm in relationship
and marriage. Hostility is a black color wreckage in relationship
and marriage. Now, what is hostility? It is an unfriendly or hostile
state, attitude, or action: acts of fighting in a war. Some people
there relationship and marriage stories are always like acts of
fighting in a war. And these have become the way they live their
lives, destroying their blessings and every good thing God has
placed in their hands. In hostility, these are the things you will see:
not friendly, unpleasant or harsh, conflict, opposition, or resistance
in thought or principle. Now, what is humility? It is the quality or
state of being humble. It is not proud or haughty: not arrogant or
assertive. In God’s Word, you will see humble and meekness
meaning the same thing. God’s Word has given us the best
definition of humility and how it becomes operative in our lives.
James 4:6 explains everything, “But He gives more grace.
Wherefore He said, God resists the proud, but gives grace unto the
humble”. That’s to say prideful people in relationship and marriage
don’t have a place in God. Fallen Lucifer was prideful. Pride is the
mother of hostility, and it destroys relationship and marriage.
Proverbs 16:18 reveals, “Pride goes before destruction, and an
haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 29:23 adds, “A man’s pride
shall bring him low: but honour shall uphold the humble in spirit”.
Proverbs 18:12 reveals more, “Before destruction the heart of man
is haughty, and before honour is humility”. Irrespective of the
difference and waywardness that has existed in your relationship
and marriage, in a Christian relationship and marriage, there is a
place for love and forgiveness. Ephesians 4:1-3 instruct, “I
therefore beseech you that you walk worthy of the vocation
wherewith you are called, With all lowliness and meekness, with
longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; Endeavouring to keep
the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace”. Galatians 6:1 further
instructs, “Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, you which are
spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of # meekness ;
considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted”. In conclusion,
marriage is humility, not hostility.

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