New generation teenagers in love

More and more teenagers are into the dating world, some are into
their age mates while other girls are dating men far older.
Well meaning teens have confessed they are in love, they want to
know if they are with the right partner and how to make their
relationships successful.
I won’t deny the fact that some women married very early and
have marriages that last decades e.g, Nigerian actress: Omotola
Jolade Ekehinde among others, I must also confess, it has its
challenges too. Your family background, parental upbringing,
maturity and spiritual life determine how you will turn out in
marriage!
Omotola for one married a man far older and had an active job to
take responsibilities as a man. He wasn’t some teenage boy
looking for love somewhere. She herself was already hustling after
her father’s death to take care of her siblings. She was into
modeling and anything that could make money and take care of
siblings. She had a sense of responsibility. She had an active vision
for her life she was pursuing, she was mature and sound and
more, she was s3xually disciplined!
The challenge I have with today’s teens is no sense of direction,
their purposelessness, visionlessness and carelessness.
You don’t date because you want to have fun, experiment s3x and
hangout, you go into courtship because you have a vision and you
need someone help you fulfil your vision. What is your vision in
life? What do you want to become?
A successful marriage is not cheap! It requires a high level of
discipline and maturity which most teenagers today don’t have.
Most are still being spoon fed by dad and mummy. You can’t even
write your WAEC without the help of special centers. You can’t do
anything sensible without being monitored. You lack control over
your mouth and s3x organs. Once you have a urge, you must
masturbate and watch porn. You don’t know John 3:16 talk less of
turning open the pages of the Bible and you want to marry, to do
what? Look into each other’s eye balls? You are seriously joking!
Look, marriage is more than, “I love you, I love you”. It involves the
change of diapers, cooking and sweating in the kitchen, screaming
out the name of your toddler, jumping out at 5am seeking your
daily bread, paying rent and bills, handling conflicts, pressures and
challenges of life which hits everyone, everyone!
Emotion is unstable, it fizzles at the face if challenges, you need
stability of character and all round maturity: spiritual, physical,
financial, economical, psychological, emotional to weather the
storms that often hit marriages whether you like it or not.
If you can’t let go of distractions, face your studies and shun all
immorality and everything that takes your attention from Christ,
your studies and your vision, you are not ready for marriage.
An unshakable focus on your God given destiny in life while doing
everything to attain it by shunning all distraction is a sign of
maturity.
Dating as a teenager is a distraction. For how long do you want to
date and what will you be doing? Hold hands, have s3x and frolic?
You are 16, you want to marry at 25 and you are into an 18 year
old boy, what will you be doing together in 9 years? How do you
plan to control your s3xual urge with your hormones raging as a
teenager? How many abortions would you have had within that 9
years?
Look, save your head from unnecessary trouble. Tell that boy
disturbing you to wait for you if he is really in love. You need to
face your education, graduate in flying colours and end up as a
woman of substance. You are not just created to marry, you have
a destiny to fulfil.
Let that girl wait for you while you build up yourself into a man
worth emulating and modeling, a man of dignity, honour,
substance and value. There is more to you than just getting
married and having children. You are here to fulfil your destiny,
focus on your destiny.

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