Reasons why our marriages fail

Reasons why our marriages fail

“Why is it that even good christian Bible believing couples who
heard clearly from the Holy Spirit before getting married still end
up with the same challenges and failed marriages like our friends
who do not yet believe in the word? Can you please explain this to

Hmmm, today someone asked me this question and it reminded
me of Noah’s walk with God. If this question bothers you too, just
relax, let me share a beautiful scripture with you, and help you plan
to prevent this from happening to you and your godly spouse.

It’s a very popular story about Noah, Genesis Chapter 6 verse
number 9-22, but I will read it for the benefit of those who might be
too lazy to open their Bible and study it after this post ;
“Noah was a righteous man, blameless among the people of his
time, and he walked faithfully with God. Noah had three sons:
Shem, Ham and Japheth. Now the earth was corrupt in God’s sight
and was full of violence. God saw how corrupt the earth had
become, for all the people on earth had corrupted their ways. So
God said to Noah, “I am going to put an end to all people, for the
earth is filled with violence because of them. I am surely going to
destroy both them and the earth. So make yourself an ark of
cypress wood; make rooms in it and coat it with pitch inside and
out. This is how you are to build it: The ark is to be THREE
HIGH. Make a roof for it, leaving below the roof an OPENING ONE
cubit HIGH ALL AROUND. Put a DOOR in the side of the ark and
make LOWER, MIDDLE and upper decks. I am going to bring
floodwaters on the earth to destroy all life under the heavens,
every creature that has the breath of life in it. Everything on earth
will perish. BUT I WILL establish my covenant WITH YOU, and you
will enter the ark—you and your sons and your wife and your sons’
wives with you. You are to bring into the ark two of all living
creatures, male and female, to keep them alive with you. Two of
every kind of bird, of every kind of animal and of every kind of
creature that moves along the ground will come to you to be kept
alive. You are to take every kind of food that is to be eaten and
store it away as food for you and for them.” Noah did everything
just as God commanded him.” (NIV)

Uhmm, this is a deep one guys, Noah was 500years when he got
the instructions to build the ark, and 600 years when he entered the
ark with his family, this means that Noah spent 100years listening
to God and following chiefly to His instructions and directions until
the ark was finished.

The Lord came to Noah ONE DAY and told him to build and ark, He
told the man exactly how He wanted the ark to be built, and
established a covenant with him which includes sparing his life and
that of his household. But what God not tell Noah was that it will
take ONE HUNDRED YEARS of his life to do this. Wow!
What if?

What if Noah had rested on that covenant and built the ark
carelessly? What if he had said “Okay, I have already been
guaranteed safety, even if I build the ark 150 cubits long as
against the 300 cubits that God instructed me to make it, my
family and I will still be safe, God does not break His covenant”
What if Noah had just made one deck instead of 3 as he was
commanded by God, because after all an ark is an ark, I guess
they would have survived the storm alright, but they wouldn’t have
survived getting torn apart by the lions and tigers they would have
let into the ark to share the same deck.

He didn’t rest on the covenant, he didn’t slow down on the
promise, he didn’t stop going to God for directions and next steps
where he was lost, he didn’t try to take the wheel from God and
build the ark all by himself, to his own taste, according to his own
preferences. No, even after he got a YES from God, Noah was still
taking directions from God for a hundred years until the ark was

One of the biggest reasons why our good Christian marriages fail
is because we take the wheel away from God after we get that
YES. We go to God with all we have got when we are asking for
directions before marriage, we pray endlessly, we fast day and
night, and tithe all we Have, but as soon as we get the leading of
the Holy Spirit, as soon as we get that YES from God concerning
that potential partner we are praying about, that’s it. From that
point on we don’t need God anymore, we start leaning on our own
understanding of our partner, and not of Gods’ revelations.

Just like Noah, we start building our marriage ark 50 cubits long
and 10 cubits wide, we start making little compromises that
opposes all the heavenly principles we have learnt; building half
decks and letting different kinds of animals in, because we only
got the part where God said Yes, but we did not wait to take
directions on how to actually build the marriage ark God is saying
yes to.

Oh so deep… I ask God for understanding over anyone who is
reading this.

It takes only a day, a second, for God to say yes to that marriage,
but it is going to take the rest of your life for Him to constanly
show you how you’re going to build that marriage He has said Yes
to. You have to stay with Him to get instructions on how deep, how
wide, how long, and how many decks He wants you to build on that
marriage. You’re going to have to stay with God to find out how
many doors you’re going to open and how many kinds of animals
you’re going to let in.

Do not take that YES and leave.
Do not make that mistake in your tongue speaking marriage

You need to hear from God all the way, from the first yes, to the
final ‘welcome oh good and faithful servant.’

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Nice write up