When younger we make various choices without the future in mind.
Sometimes those choices bite us in our mid-life. These are some
of the things one might regret when they’re older.
1. Marrying the wrong person
When you’re young, check your motives for marrying. Don’t marry
to copy your peers, or for social standing or out of pressure. Marry
for love and companionship, marry the right person, marry your
best friend. For if you marry the wrong person or for the wrong
reasons, you will have to put up with that person the rest of your
life. Things might get worse between you two; then depression,
physical abuse, affairs, pain, shame, court cases, bitterness will
define your mid-life years all because you chose the wrong one.
Things will get worse when children are involved. Make the right
choice of a spouse when you are young.
2. The opportunities you did not seize
When you are younger many doors will open, you will get many
chances. Many young people let these opportunities go because of
fear, laziness, or pride; yet well younger and with more energy is
the best time to start a venture and a name for yourself. Some
think the opportunities are too big for them. Take advantage of
them or one day when you’re older you will want to go back and
grab those missed chances.
3. The bridges you burned
When we are younger, we care little for relationships, what most
think about is getting money and moving up the ladder of success
at all cost. Many use and trample on people to progress, they take
relationships for granted, messing up bonds, sleeping with people
for personal gain. But these bad actions will catch up with you
ahead. When you will realize how empty life is without love and
friends. When you will have success but no one around you or no
one to trust you.
4. The child you aborted
You are a young lady, you get pregnant and you are scared. You
take the aborting option quickly thinking of that moment then. But
when you are much older, you will look back and wish you kept
that baby. When you will be rich and successful you will wish that
child you gave up on would be around to enjoy the fruits of your
hard work. Being a single mother doesn’t mean you can’t make it
in life or you can’t find a man in future.
5. The child you rejected
Young man, you impregnated a woman, she told you she’s
pregnant with your child. You rejected her and the baby and ran.
But years later when you’re 50 something, you will wish you were
responsible, you will wish you manned up and became a father to
that child. You will see that child excel and become an adult but
will have no claim to that grown child who you rejected from the
beginning. You will regret being a Dead Beat Dad by choice.
6. The marriage you destroyed
So you get married to your good fiance; the first months in
marriage were good but shortly after, with your money and charm,
you started having affairs. You became unfaithful. Your spouse
begged you to stop, your children started hurting, your marriage
was collapsing. One day when you are older, it will hit you how
foolish you were to destroy the good marriage you had began to
build for mere temporary thrills in affairs that did you no good.
You will realize the damage you caused to your children and
7. The God you disowned
When you are much older you become wiser, God becomes more
real as you see life in a more meaningful way. But don’t wait to get
older to start enjoying a relationship with God. Know God when
you are young, build your future with God. Don’t be a young rebel
who runs back to God when age catches up.
8. The body you messed up
You have only one body to live with all your life. The cigarettes, the
alcohol you are abusing, the drugs you are taking, the unhealthy
food you’re consuming; all that will destroy you slowly. When you
are 50 and lifestyle diseases catch up with you, you will wish you
took care of your body when younger, that you exercised more; but
now the damage is done.
9. The time you wasted
The time you are wasting when younger in worry, wrong
relationships, laziness, being a couch potato, giving excuses and
pursuing meaningless things; you will never get it back.
10. The dreams and talents you shelved
Are you talented when young; are there things you love to do and
you are good at them? Nurture those talents, exploit them, don’t
give up even if you encounter set backs, don’t give up on your
dreams. If you give up, when you’re older you will look at your
peers who stuck to what they love and made it and think to self,
“That could have been me”. Pursue a career, study a course you
love. Don’t waste years of your life in a field that doesn’t fulfill you.
11 The name you defamed
When you are older, a legacy is very important, the value of your
name is crucial. You will ask yourself what is your reputation,
what are you leaving behind? Your legacy is a sum total of your
actions since youthful days. We write our biography by how we
live life everyday. When you look back your path and you see the
mud you threw at your own name, the shame you attracted and the
little value you have added to the world; you will regret.
12. The wealth you threw away
Are you riding on good money during your productive years?
Earning good money? Don’t throw away that money in clubs,
reckless living and wasteful shopping. Invest with that money,
widen your revenue stream, make that money work for you and
keep it safe to take care of you in your older years. Leave an
inheritance for your loved ones so that you will never say “I wish I
13. The good love that got away
Is there that great person in your life loving you good? Don’t push
that person away, or else that person will walk out your life and
you will never ever find someone that incredible and who connects
with you all your life. It will torment you to grow older with
thoughts of “What if I was still with that person?”
14 The parents you despised
When younger, it is easy to show contempt to your parents; what
do your parent’s know? They are old-fashioned, shady and small –
minded. But your parents are still your parents whether you agree
with them or not, whatever their style. Don’t let your parent die or
age separated from you, reconcile and make up. When you get
older, you will realize why your parents wanted to be close to you.
The older you get, the more you see the value.
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