Why and how to avoid problems with your in-laws after marriage

You don’t have to have any problem with your in-laws when you
get married no matter how “wicked” they are.
Many single ladies enter marriage anticipating serious war with
their mothers-in-law, hostilities from the sisters-in-law and the
brothers-in-law who like to be treated like demi gods to be
worshipped just because you are unfortunate to marry their
brother, nay, it is not always so!
Some young men plan to “snatch” their wives from all her siblings
including her parents immediately after wedding so they won’t
influence her negatively. Again, nay, it is not always so!
Oh, okay, you’ve heard married couples having serious problems
with their in-laws and you are so filled with fear, you do not know
what the future holds for you, darling, marriage is not always so!
As you lay your bed in marriage, so you will lie on it. How you
enter your marriage will determine how you will stay in it. The
quality of your preparation determines the quality of your
performance. Do all the necessary ground work in courtship and
your marriage will be pure bliss.

1. Ask your partner serious questions in courtship and get full
information about his family background so you can know how to
relate with them in marriage.

2. If your fiance is a mummy’s boy, can’t do anything sensible
without his mother or she is a daddy’s girl, can’t think maturely
without her father, your partner is not mature or ready for
marriage. Either end the relationship peacefully or prepare for
rivalry with your parents-in law in marriage.

3. Marry a man who can think for himself, make sound decisions,
take responsibilities for his action and defend it. Such a man will
defend you when necessary in marriage.

4. Marry a lady who can make sound decisions by herself and is
not easily influenced by negative people. Such a lady will stand by
you in marriage and will not allow her family to interfere with your
relationship.

5. Be nice to everyone including your in-laws.

6. See them as your parents, siblings, uncles and aunts and treat
them as such. Marriage has joined you together, you can’t throw
them away.

7. Do not report your partner to your in-laws no matter how close
you are to them. Blood is thicker than water. No one likes to hear
bitter complain about his own flesh and blood.

8. Respect your parents-in-law. Erase the mentality that all
mothers-in-law are devils, it is not true. They simply have
weaknesses you don’t know how to handle and if they are wicked,
report them to God in prayer.

9. Respect, submit to and honour your husband so he can stand by
you and defend you when necessary in front of his parents when
occasion demands.

10. Ask your partner questions about the family traditions so you
know how to position yourself.

11. Your husband should have an accommodation of his own no
matter how small. If he is still living with his father and mother and wants you to join him there, be ready for serious in-law
interference. “Therefore, man shall LEAVE his father and mother
and cleave to his wife” is what the Bible says. If he is not ready to
leave his parents and cleave to you, he is not serious. End the
relationship.

12. In some Yoruba culture, the wife shows respect to all her
husband’s siblings no matter how small they are. Some families
don’t joke with this. If you are marrying into that family, you must
humble yourself and respect them. If you can’t because of your
age, family background and education, either ask your partner how
best to relate with them or end your courtship in peace.

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13. In some families, the wives are expected to cook at family
functions. Some men hate this, they prefer to pay the caterers to
do the job while some men want their wives to run helter-skelter.
Discuss this thoroughly in courtship.

14. In Yoruba culture, when the woman has her first child or all her
babies, the mother-in-law comes around to bathe the baby. This
sometimes end up a tug of war for a lot of people as traditions,
strange names, songs, even strange things are done while bathing
the child which may be against your core Christian belief.

Ask your partner serious questions in courtship. If they don’t know
the answer, they can ask their parents diplomatically, tactfully and
feed you adequate information so you can understand the type of
family you are marrying into and prepare positively for them, this
is the essence of courtship.
You can have a blissful relationship with your in-laws if you
understand them well, honour your husband, love your wife and
both of you are always in agreement.
Courtship is not for s3x. Pray, study each other, ask questions,
read godly books and listen to godly tapes. Your marriage will be
all round bliss and you won’t have any reason whatsoever to regret
it.

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2 Comments

  1. My be something else

  2. Thank you

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