Why is the newly wedded man called groom and the woman called
bride? A friend of mine got tired of his wife just about six months
after wedding. He complained bitterly to me about her and told me
that he has concluded to break up with her; he went on to say that
he was sure that he made a mistake. I did not respond
immediately because I knew I must tell him that right thing, so I
went home. And that is
what birth this message. Many men have broken up with their
wives because they end up not being the wife that they have
dreamt of. But they have forgotten that on their wedding day was
when the man was commissioned for the new task.
Nobody calls the woman wife on her wedding day but
bride,because it is the man that will groom his bride to become the
That is why the man is called ‘bridegroom or groom’ and the word
grooming has to do with patiently nurturing, teaching, tending and
helping someone to become what he or she should be.
It is therefore believed that a man that takes a woman to the altar
of marriage is matured enough to patiently groom his bride to
become the wife.
The man is not supposed to just expect the bride to automatically
become the wife, she must be groomed. It is clear that many of us
men have unnecessary expectations when we were getting
married, we want some magic to happen to our wives, we want
them to become what we have had in mind about who we want
our wives to be; not considering the fact that the woman does not
know what is on your mind except you teach her.
Our expectations are often too unrealistic, because we don’t
remember that change takes time and we can only expect
something from someone that knows what we want. So before
you think of breaking up, have you groomed her? Have you given
her time to understand you? Hope you realize that a turtle will
never become a hawk? God often brings people that are opposites
of each other together in marriage so that they can help each other
in their place of weaknesses.
If your wife is weak where you are weak, then where will you get
the strength that is needed? The problem with many of us is that
we don’t accept people before attempting to change them. Of
course, our wives are not from our backgrounds, so it will take
time for them to adjust. Stop trying to change her, accept her, love
her, teach her and be patient with her; that is what grooming is all
about. She is going to be your wife but she is your bride now, so
groom her. Stop complaining about her, she may be a turtle and
you a hawk, she cannot fly so be patient with her. I don’t believe
that your marriage can’t work, be patient and allow God to help



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    Like that

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