Marriage is a delicate matter. Words echoe. Actions are recycled. It has the magnetic potential to draw and attract things of its resemblance in your heart and mind. Love and hatred are attracted. I have more admirers than haters because i admire people a lot. These are forces attracted, even though you can’t stop the few and irrelevant haters. I teach my wife to admire people whether they look good or not. It is who i am. You definitely attract who you are.
Marriage can be made easier if the virtue of letting go (ignoring offence) for the men and bridling of the tongue (only and always praying for him) for the woman are cultivated. You are to prophetically speak life into the comfort of his job and the increase of his finance everyday, if not you will be the one suffering. Ephesians 4:29-32 instructs, Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God.
Words are energy. Words are power. Words carry productive or destructive energy. Word carries power, having ability to form, replenish or deform. Life and destruction are in the power of the tongue. Proverbs 18:21 puts it this way, “Death and life are in the
power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit”. This is where many Christian marriages have failed, not recognizing the
impact of words in their life, relationship and marriage.
An individual that failed to appropriately delivered in words that edify others will inevitably fail in relationship and marriage. It doesn’t matter if you divorce and remarry, it will be a matter of time until you deal with the root of your problem. 1 Peter 2:1-2 instructs,
Therefore, laying aside all malice, all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and
all evil speaking, as newborn babes, desire the pure milk of the
word, that you may grow thereby.
There is room to grow in grace and be educated in marriage. Hence, marriage isn’t just a noun, title or an idea. Marriage is living thing. A husband and wife makes up marriage. This reveals the importance of words and how it influence your life, relationship and marriage – whether you are aware or not, doesn’t stop it from working. Matthew 12:33-37 explains in depth, “Either make the tree good and its fruit good, or else make the tree bad and its fruit bad; for a tree is known by its fruit. How can you, being evil, speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.
A good man or woman out of the good treasure of his or her heart brings forth good things, and an evil man or woman out of the evil treasure brings forth evil things. But I say to you that for every idle word men or women may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your
words you will be condemned.” One of the most important discipline a man should cultivate in marriage is the discipline of ignoring provoking character of his wife. You are supposed to know and learn triggering feminist character before wedding.
If not, there will be a soon anticipated shipwreck of your marriage
union. This is where courtship and then engagement period are very important. Nothing should be done in haste. At least, not your marriage and destiny. A woman in other hand should cultivate the discipline of bridling her tongue, then pray more. Marriage isn’t a
place where you take back words. You sow it, you harvest it too. When it is understood, you sow more good words, even when you are angry towards harvesting better and glorious days in your marriage. If not, you will be the one destroying your marriage and opening demonic doors for your husband to misbehave. Hebrews 12:14-15 summerize everything, Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled.