Please, don’t waste your time with that guy if you do not respect
him for God’s sake! You must respect your man in marriage. If
you find it difficult trusting, admiring, honouring, respecting and
looking up to him, especially looking up to him in courtship, your
marriage will hit the rocks, it is the pure truth.
God commands you as a wife to submit to your OWN husband.
This is where most single ladies encounter trouble. There is a man
who is your own husband -your real bone and flesh. If you pick
another lady’s husband, someone who is not meant for you -you
will find it difficult submitting to him, that is the problem we have
with millions of marriages all over the world.
People are mis-matching; picking someone’s bone and having
trouble submitting! Same with men who couldn’t love their wives!
They just do not have the capacity -she was not meant for them in
the first place!
Don’t marry him if you hate him. Don’t marry him if you despise
him! Don’t marry him if his words irritates you. Don’t marry him if
you can’t respect him in public! Don’t marry him if you can’t take
his advice. Don’t marry him if you do not believe in his vision.
Don’t marry him if you hate the way he looks. It is not God’s will
for you to end up with someone you hate. Don’t! Don’t!! Don’t!!!
Some people think God’s will is someone you hate but have no
choice than to accept. That is a big lie from the pit if hell! God
won’t give you anyone you hate.
Adam didn’t hate Eve the moment he saw her. Infact, he exclaimed
in utter amazement. Sarah certainly didn’t hate Abraham neither
did Rebecca hate Isaac. Same with Jacob who fell madly in love
with Rachael the moment he saw her. Admiration stems from love.
If you do not admire them, it is not God’s will.
One man woke up in the dead of the night, looked at his wife with
pure, cold hatred in his eyes and said, “If not because you are
God’s will for me, I wouldn’t have married you!” That is arrant
nonsense! God certainly didn’t give her that woman, he picked her
I don’t force myself to admire my husband, it’s natural. It springs
from the bottom of my belly. He is a man of wisdom per
excellence. His words always ring in my ears. My husband’s
words are filled with wisdom. Filled with the word of God and rich
in Yoruba proverbs. He most time speaks to me using proverbs. I
so much love listening to him and learning from him. He made me
the woman I am today. I am the express expression of God’s
grace on his life. I love him, I admire him, I love to obey and submit to him!
Marriage is not by force. God won’t force someone you don’t like
on you. He won’t push a man you despise on your head. He would
not command you with thunder in His voice and fire in His eyes to
marry a man who gives you heartache and pain. If you can’t
respect him, please, loose him and let him go. God will give you
your own bone and flesh in due time.